Happy It Happened

Failed relationships. Failed businesses. Sometimes I’ve even failed to see the light of day. In hindsight, I’m happy that it happened.

I’m happy that I got to be with someone whom I loved, even if it didn’t mean forever. I’m happy that I got to be my own boss, even if it meant losing more money then I have been comfortable enough to repay. I’m happy that I lost a dream job, even though it left me with some permanent scars.

I’m not the most attractive person – or in the words of Mike Posner, not the kind of guy a girl craves.

I’m not the smartest guy – I don’t have head hunters or industry leaders knocking on my door.

I’m not always the most likeable guy – making friends and networking has always been hard for me.

But, and this has taken me a while, deep down, I am happy. Yes, I’ve cried, I’ve shouted, I’ve punched a wall, I’ve grieved and I’ve even shouted into the darkness that life is unfair. But ultimately I am happy. I am happy for everything that has happened. As the saying goes “don’t be sad it ended, be happy that it happened”.

Grief is inexplicable part of the process and not to be ignored – but if it doesn’t lead to some sort of positivity or happiness then you’ll just end up losing a bit of your soul.

My take? Be happy it happened.